Women’s Studies Complaints

June 1, 2010 at 1:22 PM Leave a comment

I have been thinking a lot about the (ongoing) complaints about life by feminists.  First, anyone who knows me would probably call me a feminazi or something because I really reject and resent patriarchal stereotypes or mores that all of us are supposed to swallow.  This is a very broad statement.  However, many of the “complaints” seem to be more like the inability of the individual to assert his or her own will in a situation rather than the result of a faulty social institution.

Recently, I enrolled in a class called “Business Organization” which is really just sociology (organizational theory) and psychology (individuals within the organization).

As a class we were supposed to read about a CEO of a corporation who was just plain nasty.  He was a bigtime budget cutter in order to gain a company more profit and basically your typical “cut throat businessman” type like Boss Hog on Dukes of Hazard.  Just a jerk …Well, this guy would scream at employees and even scream or yell so loudly that spit would fly on the employees (mostly upper management that he worked with, being the CEO).  The teacher asked us to determine what we would do and/or learn from this.  My statement was how to either quit as soon as possible or to file a lawsuit.  The teacher’s response to me (and this is my fundamental problem with “women’s studies,” “feminism,” and “victimization” theories) was that sure that might be ok but some of the employees might not be able or willing to quit or file a lawsuit because they needed the money, the insurance, the job security (whatever else.)  This reminded me of the excuses women give when in abusive relationships.  I have met many of them when I lived in a women’s shelter.  Certain women would tell HORROR stories about abuse they’d endured, and then go right back to the abuser.  Why?  Well I learned “why” in Neil Websdale’s domestic violence class:  because they “love” him (i.e. dedication to a company or a boss); “because they needed the financial security”  (or other sorts of family security) and because they had been socialized to do so.  There may be other reasons that I forgot — but it was basically about emotional attachment, money, and feelings of inferiority in general or the inability to leave the situation.

All of this may be well understood from a statistical/demographic standpoint, a sociological standpoint, and a psychological standpoint.  But why does this afford the person my pity?  Or anyone’s pity?  Where I have a problem is NOT that a person chooses to remain in an abusive situation (or do nothing about it, like call the police and have the guy arrested or file a lawsuit in the case of a business) — OH WELL.  It is that people are STILL expected to pity that person and even bend over backwards to help them out.  This is the main thing that “liberal” educational theories seem to tell us.  Even though the individual has chosen a horrible life (after taking into consideration all of the factors in their social structure that force them into a miserable life in the first place, which we may address as a society to change), and refuses to leave the situation — WE ALL STILL NEED TO FEEL SORRY FOR THEM.  So my teacher’s point in her response to me was something like, “Some people may silently support you but not be able to visibly support you,” or “Because people can’t or won’t ‘leave’ for whatever reason, you still need to accept their actions as socially valid.”

To me this implies that an enabler (someone who shuts the hell up and lets abuse or violations occur against them) is someone who is a “victim” we should cater to.  I simply disagree.  My belief is that we all have a free will…. many philosopher’s have discussed this to the minutia of detail.  However, most of them agree (along with religion) that we DO have a free will.  We can use it to do good or bad, or to stand up for ourselves or choose to cow to others (whether that is good or beneficial to us or not).  So why should someone who makes a free choice to cow to others when it reaps a negative reward on them be also considered a victim?

To me, a victim is someone who, outside of their will and their choice and mostly as a complete subject to an event gets victimized by the event.  Such as:  a woman is walking down the street and someone rapes her.  Such as, an employee is having a coffee in the break room and the manager comes in and slaps the coffee off the table and all over the room, and starts screaming at them to GET BACK TO WORK.   A victim is a woman who is in an abusive relationship and abuse occurs so she makes a choice (at some point) to press charges against the abuser, or leave the abuse.  A victim is NOT someone who out of their own choice and free will chooses to remain in a situation of abuse or victimization because “other factors” are more important to them.  This is merely a person who makes a choice …. the choice that money is more important than self-worth, or economic security is more important than physical or emotional security.  How is a person who makes a clear-cut choice in a situation “a victim”?  I mean, if someone robbed me at gun point on the street and took my wallet with $200 in it, I am clearly a victim.  But if I then invite that person over for a beer and they proceed to rob me of the rest of my property — is that a “victim” or an “enabler”?  At what point does the victim become the enabler?

And here is my next statement that will piss off the entire Women’s Studies faction (which I did far too well when I was in the women’s studies program, for not agreeing with their every post-modern, anti-science, pro-catering to every victim and enabler they called a victim on the planet):  When you cross the line from “victim” to “enabler” — you are pretty much just as bad as the “criminal.”  If you allow criminality to occur, you only perpetuate its existence in the world.  If you fail to stand up for your own rights, love, family, and self-worth — then you allow the person victimizing you to continue that behavior, and likely continue it against others.

I have a firm belief that women ARE half the world’s population and contribute to the world’s problems just as much as men do.  I have to think:  every male child that is raised in the world is usually raised and educated by a woman.  Of course they leave this out because it minimizes the whole view and theory that women are by and large victims of a male dominant society that only wants to oppress them.  But, you see just as many women ranting and raving sexist, anti-women rights as men do.  In fact, in my experience, women are MORE LIKELY to oppress other women than men are!  Just hang out with a group of old church ladies for a few months and you will see… they have a lot more to say about human behavior and repressing your free will than men usually do.

Just a thought.

I’m not saying the whole feminist movement is bosh — of course I value the right to vote, the right to work, the right to dress without huge restrictions, the right to own property, the right of custody of my children, etc. etc.  But these rights were fought for long and hard by women who did stand up against the oppressor, not by those women who played their social role exactly as it was scripted.  The women who won rights for women not only had to stand against the men who didn’t want them to compete or have equal rights, but against all the women who agreed with the men and believe me, they are a much harder force to deal with.  When you look at a man and wonder why he doesn’t women in the workplace, there may be actual reasons:  he doesn’t want the competition, he doesn’t want to deal with the sexuality issues, etc.  But when a woman stands up against women in the work place — they have no valid reason usually except their own personal opinion and jealousy (because they don’t want you working with their husbands).  And, someone should really teach the theory of female jealousy and how that derails the independence of all women, because I honestly believe that a whole degree program could be created just based on that concept.


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